Making the Magic (Pizzaz) Happen in Marriage

I was reading Dr. Kelly Flanagan's blog, titled UnTangled, and he got me thinking again about reigniting the pizzaz in our marriages. He suggests that the there are "three words that can make magic happen in marriage". This words are; "I, am, and sorry". In stating the "I", one acknowledges ownership for their part in the conflict, hurt or pain that was caused in the relationship. In the "am", one acknowledges the action that caused the relational disconnect and in the "sorry", one has the opportunity to step into sincere sorrow for the action. 


This sorrow produces the opportunity for forgiveness which is the healing magic that eventually leads to bringing back the pizzaz. The pizzaz grows when we take an interior look at ourselves, what Dr. Flanagan calls "revision" in his blogpost. 

Revision is where the magic happens. In writing. And in marriage.

I am sorry.

When we say we’re sorry, our egos dissolve and we put something else before ourselves: we put the Muse in front of us, and the Muse is our marriage and our love and this one person we’ve committed to above and beyond perfection or efficiency or ease or ego.

May we mutually and fully enter into the process of revising our small, stubborn egos for the sake of the one we love, and may we discover:

That’s where the magic happens.

That’s where the meaning is made.

And that’s where the beauty is born.

Is pizzaz lacking in your marriage? Would you like to take some steps to bring it back? Have the courage today to try what is suggested here and let us know what you experience.