Sex...

We continue to look at a husband's needs and expectations of his wife in marriage. Dave Willis, in his blogpost, addresses specifically what a husband needs, wants and expects from their wives. (in no particular order). He suggests there are 5 key needs, wants or expectations husbands have for their wives. Here they are:

1) Companionship
2) Respect
3) Sex
4) Domestic support
5) Commitment  

Things to consider first...
Taking a higher view regarding marriage (God's view)  is critical if we are going to comprehend sexuality in marriage. Pete and Geri Scazzero, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, have informed much of what Monique and I believe about sexuality in marriage. This is from one of their blogposts and podcasts...

1. Marriage is a life work – a vocation with a mission. We are “sent” by God to our spouse to love passionately, permanently, intimately, totally, and unconditionally.
2. My first call in life is to be living sign of His love to the church/world in my marriage. I am to be present to my wife as God is to me.
3. Christian marriage is meant to be lived in an aura of sexual chemistry and respect.
4. To raise my children in love, I have to make love.

Generally speaking, a majority of men have a strong physical desire for frequent sex, but sex isn’t just physical for them. He feels connected to you when you make love. The Scazzero's believe that our sexuality is deeply rooted in our spirituality. (Jesus' love for us as followers, Holy Spirit in us) This makes perfect sense in the connection physical, emotional and spiritual that happens during intercourse. Do you see it? Making your sexual intimacy a priority demonstrates a deep love, the love of Jesus, from one to the other. 

Trusting in our new identity in Christ is a key truth that ushers us into the reality that we can be "naked and unashamed" once again. It is here we find freedom to express ourselves sexually.