Appreciation....a word I couldn't get out of my mind this past Saturday. While relaxing with Vic, spending time with our nephew Eric and his delightful wife Daniella in Miami, my heart was flush with gratitude.
Eric and Daniella invited us into their lives to do pre-marriage counseling a couple years ago...the perks of technology with Skype/Facetime, making it possible to connect Burlington, Wa to Miami, Florida on Sunday evenings! We have enjoyed spending time with them, in person, this past weekend, watching how they appreciate one another. It has been encouraging to hear them express affirmations, listen and even navigate through a difficult conversation.
Demonstrating genuine appreciation for one another in marriage in simple, consistent measures....small or large, breathes life into a relationship. As we approach 25 years of married life, I reflect on seasons I have done this well, and others I've failed miserably, focusing more on self.
This train of thought takes me back to one of my favorite words...intentional. By appreciating (a verb), our spouses intently, we have significant opportunity to love well, influence, heal and build trust with the most important relationship on earth. Mutual appreciation can lead to deeper friendship and intimacy. What a gift it is to give and receive this act of kindness in marriage.
Heading into 2017, one of my goals is to shower words of admiration, respect and love towards Vic...even on our worst days. If you reading this and feel you have fallen short...you are not alone, likely most of us have. Ask forgiveness and in His grace run forward! I'm reminded by scripture and a recent post from a friend, " God's mercy is fresh and new every single morning. May it be a day of wonder, joy, contentment and grace." Start anew!
Emotional Roller Coasters...
I have always found roller coaster rides to be scary and at the same time fun. I think the fun for me really sinks in after the ride is over. The same can be said for emotional roller coaster rides.
Emotional roller coaster rides can be fun, crazy and gut wrenching all at the same time in the sports world. Just ask any Seattle Mariners or Seattle Seahawks fan; I am one.
However, emotional roller coaster rides are life sucking in marriage. When one or both partners are kept guessing, destined to “walk on egg shells” there is no soil for intimacy. I’m am so convinced that the work God is doing through Emotionally Healthy Spirituality is for everyone to receive. If you haven’t gone to their website to hear more…do so today www.emotionallyhealthy.org The relational skills taught through EHS provide the practical application for living a life of love. The skills will guide you in riding the emotional roller coaster by discovering God in the midst of your emotions; where you will experience grace, truth and love.
Monique and I will be teaching these skills at our next Marriage Mosaic workshop Nov. 15th at Mt. Vernon Christ the King. Come join us! You can find out more about it here.
Vic and Monique
We are all about helping your marriage thrive.