Love, a safety net in marriage ...

What does this loving safety net look like?

• A Judgment free zone
• A space where we aren’t trying to fix each other
• It’s acknowledging that we can’t handle sin, our own or our spouse's
• A place of complete and unconditional acceptance of one another.
• A hiding free zone

How do you create this space in your marriage?

You have to trust that God loves you in this way (He is our safety net)  and you are not defined by the struggle, your performance, your failures or successes, whatever they are.

What does this safety net look like in the reality of marriage? Monique's love for me continues to catch me in my fall towards letting food be my go-to for comfort from worry and stress. My life-long pattern has been to turn to food to quiet my anxiousness. I can unconsciously snack on chips, cookies, crackers and nuts for hours.

When I would share my struggles, she used to try and 'fix" me. I would make many personal declarations to get on a healthy track "starting tomorrow”, which were often met with criticism.


It has been a journey for me in discovering that I can't conquer this struggle by mustering up more will power. We have realized that; Criticism and trying to "fix" one another doesn't work.

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Grace changes how we see each other and our sin issues. 

Grace produces the "safety net". We began to see ourselves as God sees us. Currently I've stopped making the "declarations" and I feel freedom to share the ongoing struggle with Monique. I'm on a journey with her and Jesus, walking towards wholeness one day at a time.