Flash backs to middle school dance classes and dance classes in college were bouncing in my mind this past week. Monique and I are doing something we've talked about for the last couple of years; we are taking a dance class together. Specifically, we are learning Western Swing.
Each of us are experiencing the clunkiness of trying something new and entering into the realm of feeling awkward and clumsy. I'm probably feeling this more than she is, but we both commented to the awkwardness after our first class. The feelings run through the fiber of my body are feelings of frustration, impatience and inadequacy. Why is this taking me so long to learn these basic steps? This should come more naturally to me. Why do I have to think so much, and when I do think through the steps, the more mixed up my steps. Is this supposed to be fun?
So...we are doing as our instructor suggested, practice, practice and practice some more...5 to 10 minutes a night and the steps will flow into a basic pattern from which we will add new moves. What seems so unnatural right now will become natural in time with practice.
Funny how the analogy of learning a new dance and the basic steps, correlates beautifully with the hard work of learning to love others. Loving is unnatural just like the new dance. There are new steps we can take to learn how to love. It seems to me from reading the Scriptures and specifically 1 Corinthians 13, love is the main thing.
Are you ready to try some new steps with us, steps that will be clunky and awkward at first? The benefits will result in a dramatic transformation in receiving and giving love. Will we begin dancing in the weeks ahead.
Vic and Monique
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